Victoria's Perfect Bodies, Rene Z's Face+The Truly Perfect Body



You've probably seen it by now----10 young women
posed casually in underwear while "The Perfect Body" hovers in the center of the spread. We don't notice the underwear at all, of course. Victoria's Secret is not selling underwear. Their new campaign is all about selling bodies. 

I had a perfect body like that once. For a year, maybe two. All I did to get it was to stop eating. Almost entirely. 


So---these models' bodies are perfect----for what? For selling underwear, maybe? (And--perfect for igniting a national firestorm!) Because we all know just by looking that they are far from perfect for much else. Not perfect for any kind of work or sports or athletics. Not perfect for bringing children into the world.
Not perfect for anything requiring strength, endurance, even simply the energy to get through the day. Look closely.




This same week, I've looked at Rene Zellweger's new face a dozen times already, fascinated and horrified along with nearly everyone else. I cannot help but mourn for her. For all of us.





What are we doing?

We've  come to see our faces and bodies as plastic, man-made material to be shaped and hacked for our whims, our needs, and for others' greed.  

It makes sense. If we are no longer God-made, God-sustained, God-loved, we must find other meaning and value for out bodies and faces. 






For the consumer, bodies are billboards, auctioned off to the highest bidder,


                                                            (Billy the Billboard)

For the technophile and transhumanist, bodies are machines, their failing flesh perfected by metal and gears.








For the aging, bodies and faces are skin to be nipped, tightened and plumped to a facsimile of who we think we once were. 




For the fashion industry, bodies are hangers, the clavicle spaced just right for a designer's drape. 




For athletes and spectators, bodies are meat-and-muscle, bred for bulk or height or heft.






And this is only the start. For too many, our bodies are commodities, and everyone is after "perfect." The highest good, is that we feel good about ourselves. (See Rene Z.'s explanation of her new look here))


I'm not young anymore. I’m trying hard to feel good about myself too, and my increasing, visible changes, but feeling good isn’t enough. I've read articles that instruct women to start their day by standing in front of the mirror, wrapping their arms around  themselves, and reciting, “I love you! You're so beautiful!” for as many times as they need. 

 Surely there’s more to feeling good about ourselves than feeling good about ourselves. I think there is.  I see it on the faces of a few women I know in their 70’s and 80’s, women with wide waists, sagging chests and creased, smiling faces, faces brightly turned to others. These are women who feel good about themselves, but clearly they feel even better about others. 



 My vanity still props me against the mirror every morning massaging high- promise creams into the latest creases and lines. I’m always trying to lose 10 pounds. I  wear shocking red lipstick, splurge occasionally on a fru-fru coat, fret about my varicose veins. I still want to look and feel good.  But more than this and more than ever, I want to BE good.  I want to be the kind of person who sees beyond herself  to others around her. The kind who loves her neighbor like herself, who knows her body is not hers alone but is meant for the good of others. That kind who does for her neighbor what she would like them to do for her, two golden rules that never show their weight or their age. 



Until we know whose bodies these are and what they're for, we'll always get it wrong. 

But when we see women who get it right,  it's so beautiful and perfect---

we should put it on a billboard. 

We should even start a campaign. 
















"The Perfect Body"

 










22 comments:

  1. Wow, Leslie- I had to follow your links via twitter to FB to here and it was worth it! My mom's health has really faltered this year, but I always know she is beautiful. Her face is beautiful from many years of loving God and others. Her spirit somehow bears up under years of pain and sleeplessness. Her fingers curl, so it's hard for her to hold a phone- an important thing while being in a nursing home, often lonely. :( But she is truly an image of and study in beauty. Thank you for the above pics and statements.
    -Pastor Russ
    Beaverton, OR

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    1. Pastor Russ--then you know exactly!! We've all seen it, but somehow we don't want to be the wrinkled-beautiful, but the young-beautiful. It's hard to let go . . but thank you for this lovely testimony to your mother, who sounds ravishingly beautiful!

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    2. It's kind of you to reply, Leslie, thank you. I'll let mom know you think she's ravishing! It will make her day.

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  2. If you could hear through the screen... you would hear applause... and yes and amen... I just heard this morning that a woman traveled to Africa to get the color of her eyes permanently... In my youth, I trudge through the mud of anorexia ... it took years of God loving me to root out all that self hatred!!! I saw true beauty this past week... I spent the week taking care of my MIL(86) as she recovers from 7 broken ribs(3 are broken in 2 places).... The grace in which she handled the pain... the being woken in the middle of the night without be grumpy was amazing to see. One day I got a glimpse why... she has been widow for 6 years... she told me she talks to herself... but then I heard her having what I thought sounded like she was having imaginary conversations with herself... the cadence of her voice was different... so I went to the door to listen... she was reciting Psalms... 6 of them... most of which she learned as a child in a mission school in the mts of TN... and she did not say these rotely... but as she said, as an act of worship. When I turned 50 some years ago... God planted a desire in my heart to be gray and gracious ... to fight gravity... no just of my flesh... but my spirit... not to become... narrow, demanding and sour. Yes... lets start a revolution ... showing of HIs beauty... of HIs Body!!!!

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    1. Ro--this was so beautiful it brought tears to my eyes. I could just see her on her bed, speaking these words aloud to her listening Father. This is my hope as well, to NOT become "narrow, demanding and sour." I am SO thankful for these model of true beauty and perfection ahead of us to show us the way!!

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  3. Leslie, this is one of the most beautiful posts you have written. I am going to print it and attach it to my bathroom mirror. Since my treatment for breast cancer last year, I don't recognize my own body at times. The scars, the "saggies," and all the other changes have affected me greatly. (which conjures up a monster of guilt. I should be glad to be alive!). My husband reminds me that my eyes are still blue and my smile and words are able to comfort because of the comfort I've been given. I whine and ask him if he loves my body, and he ALWAYS replies: "Of course, I do. I chose you. You are my wife."

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    1. Lisa---I am so moved that this is on your mirror. I love what your husband says to you in your times of doubt and mourning: "I chose you. You are my wife" and all that implies. There's so much we don't get to choose about ourselves--but we can choose this: to keep loving each other. Thank you. Thank you.

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  4. Hi Leslie, What is interesting to me is that despite all the "Christian" talk about inner beauty, etc., have we really made progress? In our Western Christian culture, aren't we still buying into it all? I don't have an easy answer for this one, but I do know, I don't have time to stand in front of a mirror every morning and give myself twenty hugs and comments! Doesn't work anyway. For me, the best antidote is to keep going to the mirror of my Heavenly Father. And to keep connecting with other women. And to keep being real! Thanks again for such a thought-provoking message.

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    1. Heather---I'm with you. The self-hugs don't work at all, I don't think! (It's part of what I was saying in the post about self-esteem. ) We can give ourselves all the pats on the back we want---but we know intuitively how ridiculous and impotent that is. And--when I do the same, go to the mirror of God's word, I always find that at first I am appalled at my own sin. There are tears---and then the Rescue comes. Who I am in CHRIST. Thank you!!

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  5. Good Post...thanks for sharing...something good here for all of us ladies!!!

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  6. Thoreau said somewhere that each man's body is a temple to the God he worships. This has always lead me to self-condemnation. My body tells of laziness, sedentariness, depression, bad food choices.

    But it works, it is good for all practical purposes. St. Francis called his body "Brother Ass," the refractory beast that housed his soul. I feel like that towards mine. The much self-abused yet serviceable flesh that is yet me, that houses my mind, spirit and heart.

    I am trying to celebrate my body, which I have never looked after. Just as God can use all the plot twists of our lives to fashion a good story, perhaps he can use my weighty body as a plot twist in a good and interesting story.

    "These are women who feel good about themselves, but clearly they feel even better about others." How well you put it, Leslie. I aspire to be that kind of woman!

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    1. Anita! Great quote from Thoreau, and often true. Yes, "Brother Ass"----I feel that, too, but somehow I think we are more intimately integrated--body and soul-- than we even suspect. Science is discovering this more and more---the connections between mind body and spirit. And good for you, for celebrating what GOd has given! I'm about to celebrate mine as well---going for a walk! As always, thank you for reading and writing back so interestingly!

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  7. So I'm going to agree with some and challenge some here. I saw Rene's photos. Frankly, I don't think she looks that different except for her eyes which were previously hooded and are not now. (Cover her eyes in the before and after photos and you might see what I'm saying). The eyes are the focus for most people. My mother-in-law had surgery many years ago to fix her hooded eyelids. No one batted an eye at her decision (sorry--couldn't help the pun). I think your point here is that our security should always be in Christ who never fades, not in flesh that always fades, sooner or later, yes? Agreed. Yet, is it wrong/horrible for some to enhance their appearance with make-up? Some think that's vain. Is it wrong to want to wear attractive-looking clothes? Some think that's a waste of time and money (long denim jumpers and knee socks are quite enough). And who cares about hair cuts? Just grow it long and braid it in a pony tail. Bottom line--appearance isn't the issue. What's drives the heart and soul and mind of a person is the issue. I don't know Rene Zellweger or all the others pictured here. Therefore, I should be careful about judging or being horrified because something doesn't fit my sense of rightness. I know a young teen who is a body-builder. His mother, my friend is dying of cancer. She couldn't be more proud of her son. I think he looks gross. But he wins titles. And he knows who he is in Christ. Jesus is carrying him through this very tough time of becoming an orphan all over again. He was adopted by her as an infant in Cambodia. On the other hand, my former piano teacher--my surrogate mother--had her breasts stripped off from cancer and never had reconstructive surgery. I saw her butchered chest once. She wanted me to see that flesh is just flesh. Spirit transcends. I sat with her and read her Psalms before she died. I will see her again, with her full bosom fully attached and beautiful. Breasts or no breasts, she was gorgeous to me--and to God.

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    1. Hi Heather! Great thoughts! You know me, and know how much Ilove beauty! I struggle with all this stuff myself--body image, aging . .. so I want to write from a place not of judgment, but of understanding. And as you say, the question always has to be--what's our motive? ALso, for me--how much does it cost? Because they'es also a stewardship issue here. On Rene, I do find myself mystified, because to my eyes her new face looks older and less attractive, when I'm sure she intended to look younger and more beautiful. I have no doubt that the insane pressures of Hollywood are at the core of that change. I don't want to judge her----but to stand back and look at the larger issue in our culture. WHich is that we no longer see our bodies as belonging to God, but as simply flesh, our own possessions to hack,pierce, starve, etc. exactly as we wish. THis is what I lament above all, that so many young women and others are hating their bodies, missing GOd's great love for them, body and soul.

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    2. Oh Leslie! My soul resonates with yours! All I have to say in response to your response is . . . AMEN!

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  8. As I get older I like the science behind preventive medicine led by Dr. Ken Cooper. Choosing to eat a healthy heart diet, brisk walking, resistance training and flexibility can increase or maintain vitality for more of our years as we age. Strength training can actually add muscle into our 90's. Goals I think do change as we age. When I was younger I competed in tennis, football and baseball. Now I workout to control pain, keep the ability to hike, help the heart and brain and have the strength to do the things I want and need in my life. Returning to 20 is undoable. The only way we will be able to be independent and helping with the care of others is to move now. I have cerebral palsy so pursuing fitness goals I found is necessary to hold back what would be natural decline if I didn't work at it.
    Acceptance of change and self is as important as walking, working and seeing our doctor. The girls and Renee depend on their beauty to work. Hollywood is especially hard on women. I have observed my range for women who I think is beautiful has expanded quite a bit since I was younger. It seems like when I was young I was narrow in my thinking about it. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and I wish when I was younger I could've seen that. My mother once told me, "Why does everybody want to take a picture of me now when I'm old and fat?" I think that was part of her depression that she was experiencing then. She was a beautiful woman but she didn't age well. She was sedimentary, her heart was in poor condition and she's suffered when she was older with the long term depression. She was smart and funny but I think she was on the negative side with some of the things that you write about here.
    All of the stuff I think is very important, thanks for your insights.

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    1. Wow, Bill, you're inspiring! And you bring up an excellent point, which is that fitness, health---this is not vanity. Keeping active, using our bodies to move and work as God intended enhances our lives: helps us sleep better, work better, feel better. All good!! We can get that out of whack as well, just as we do with the pursuit of beauty. But I mostly just want to say----you're an inspiration, Bill!

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  9. My over 50 body is succumbing to the gravity pull of bearing children and time and my hair is graying but my godly husband finds me beautiful and sexy. He frequently tells me so even though the mirror screams differently to me. But I am learning to desire the beauty of a women at rest in her God and who she is in Him. I want my wrinkles to be etched by laughter and joy rather than furrows of worry or fear or crease of anger or disapproval. I want a face that shows a settled peace with God and His sovereign plans even aging! I long to be a woman that encourages others and points them to a Savior who so intimately loves them exactly as they are - His creations made in His image.

    Grace,

    Deb

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    1. Deb---I just looked at your google photo---and you look great!! I love those aspirations---a face that shows a settled peace. And points other to Jesus. I imagine I'll keep doing a little kicking and screaming along the aging path---but this is where I want to be as well. Thank you Deb!

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  10. This is something that I am struggling with as I get older. I look at older women and find most of them beautiful. So, why should I feel badly about myself as I age. I want to age beautifully and gracefully and always have a smile on my face. Thank you for this wonderful post. It really encouraged me.

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    1. It's so true. Other older women are beautiful----so, what's MY problem that I don't want to be one of them---right now?? I'll get there!! thanks, Candy!

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  11. Oh, amen. All of it is sad and hard and such an easy trap to fall into, especially for our kids, I think. LOVE your last picture!

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